How to Make New Friends

One of the best things about writing a blog is that you get to interact with people on-line who have interests similar to your own. Eventually, those interactions become friendships, and sometimes if you live close enough to each other, you get to meet in person!

It isn’t all that easy to meet new people here in L.A., so I’m very excited that I spent last Saturday afternoon with four delightful women who I’ve never met before and who love to write about their passion. So, if you’d also like to meet interesting people and do a bit of networking as well, follow these simple instructions.

1) Start a blog on a subject that you love. Make sure it’s something that you potentially can talk about forever.  For me that’s fashion, because I’ve loved clothing for as long as I can remember.

2) Reach out to other bloggers who write about the same subject. Read the blogs you love, and comment on your favorite posts.  Be sure your comments are thoughtful.  Put a link to your site so you can be found easily by other bloggers, but don’t be pushy. The hard sell is not friendly!  If other bloggers are interested in your blog they will start reading it and you’ll begin a correspondence.

3) Connect with fellow bloggers on Twitter and Facebook – Twitter is a great place to bond with your blogging friends from around the world.  Follow your on-line friends and re-tweet their posts. Facebook is also a good  place to network and connect on-line.

4) Join a local blogging group. Most cities have local groups, though they’re not always easy to find.  I joined “Two Point Oh L.A.” in the hopes of finding other local fashion bloggers.  This is how I met the delightful Mary Jo of “Trust Your Style”.

5) Join blog networking groups. I’ve found some great blogs by joining Independent Fashion Bloggers. The meet-up I went to this weekend was started on Kristy Elena’s Full Time Fabulous fashion blog group on Facebook.

6) Get out of the house. If you’re invited to something fun, and it works with your schedule, go check it out!

My New Friends in Fashion (and Food)

Mary Jo

Mary Jo’s blog, “Trust Your Style”, is where I go for style advice and fashion inspiration based on works of art. Mary Jo also designs her own line of clothing.  I’m hoping the next time we get together I’ll get to see her creations in person.


Alexis of North on Harper” organized our little luncheon. Her blog is all about “…the things that contribute to living a chic, fulfilling, and tenacious life.” This includes fashion!  My favorite are her weekly “NoH does” posts, where other bloggers contribute a photo of an outfit based on a theme Alexis chose earlier in the week.


Stephanie of “The Loudmouth” has been blogging since she was a teenager. She writes a really fun and colorful personal style and fashion blog which I’m looking forward to getting to know better.


Kimberly of Unrivaled Kitch is a chef who writes about food and shares her best recipes, as well as restaurant reviews. Her post about preparing cactus leaves for cooking makes me want to run out and get some to try, though I think my family might like the rice krispy bunny cake best.

Been to any blogging meet-ups recently? What did you think about the experience?  How do you feel about being part of the blogging community?

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24 Responses to How to Make New Friends

  1. Alexis of NorthOnHarper May 12, 2011 at 10:31 am #

    Yay!!!!! So excited to have met.

    And your advice is spot on- especially in a city as impersonal as LA.

    I am really looking forward to the next time. My husband couldn’t believe how long we met up for!!!
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    • Heather Fonseca May 12, 2011 at 4:26 pm #

      LA is impersonal isn’t it? I thought maybe it was just me…
      It was so great meeting you in person. Thank you so much for setting it up. I’m looking forward to the next meet-up, and hopefully we can get a few more people to join too!

  2. Mary Jo
    May 12, 2011 at 10:37 am #

    Heather, I love your post–I can’t tell you how much I enjoyed getting together with you and all the other sweet and wonderful bloggers! It’s so nice to build a community here locally (well almost local for me).

    xo Mary Jo
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    • Heather Fonseca May 14, 2011 at 5:13 pm #

      It was so much fun! I can’t wait to see you again. It’s really nice to have a little blogging community here in L.A.

  3. Joy May 12, 2011 at 11:47 am #

    This has to be one of the primary reasons I started my blog — I’d like to make some friends!

    How wonderful that you’ve met some fabulous bloggers that you connect with in your area.

    Great suggestions! Thank you!

    • Heather Fonseca May 14, 2011 at 5:18 pm #

      I wish you lived closer so we could meet!

  4. Jamillah May 12, 2011 at 2:23 pm #

    Ooooo! I don’t know some of these ladies! They lookie like fun 🙂

    I met my first bloggy friend in real life last week and she was as delightful and as sweet as I thought in my head.

    May 12, 2011 at 5:53 pm #

    I love your tips…we can always use new friends, right?!
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    • Heather Fonseca May 14, 2011 at 5:11 pm #

      Always! Friends are the best. What would life be without them?

  6. Sacramento May 12, 2011 at 11:52 pm #

    Thank you for such lovely post and tips. You are an angel.

    May 13, 2011 at 11:51 pm #

    Hahaha oh man, that photo of me is SO silly compared to everyone else’s! You’re all so chic, and I’m like WOOOO!

    Anyway, thanks for this cute little write-up and the great tips! IFB Links a la Mode material? 😉
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    • Heather Fonseca May 14, 2011 at 5:10 pm #

      What are you talking about. You look adorable. My husband was all like, “she’s really cute” and then he was off to look at more photos on your blog!

  8. Meg May 14, 2011 at 5:17 am #

    Aw i’m so glad you met up with steph, she seems like a really awesome girl and love her blog! Will have to check out the other lovely ladies too!
    Some great tips you included here. Sometimes though I feel out of the loop a lot in blogging because I live on an island where hardly anyone blogs there are no “blogger meetups” here. I know most of the people who do blog so it wouldn’t be as interesting as yours where you’re meeting new people and it’s all exciting, if that makes sense!
    Great tips to remember for the future though and you look very pretty in pink! I’m really glad you started including a blog with photos of yourself, it’s nice to see you in the limelight!

    • Heather Fonseca May 14, 2011 at 5:08 pm #

      I’m glad you like my new blog! I’m really enjoying writing it, though sometimes I look in my closet and think “eek! I’m running out of new material!”.

      Stephanie is a lot of fun. I’m really glad I got to meet her in person. It was a fun event.

      Honestly your island sounds really interesting to me, and LA really boring sometimes, but that’s because it’s what I’m used to I think.

  9. kimberly (unrivaledkitch) May 15, 2011 at 1:54 am #

    so sweet of you to mention our get together I’m so happy to of met you! I hope your having a wonderful weekend.


    • Heather Fonseca May 17, 2011 at 10:00 am #

      Wonderful to meet you too Kimberly! Your food blog is really great. I want to try that cactus omelette.

  10. Stacey - Total City Girl
    May 15, 2011 at 3:08 pm #

    Fun! I love to network and meet new people. I was in an online blogging course last Fall and orgnized a meetup for some NY classmates. Great to meet everyone in person. Wish you were closer!!
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  11. Lee Oliveira May 16, 2011 at 5:51 am #

    I love meeting bloggers wherever I travel. That is so much great stories to share.
    You girls looked fabulous
    Lee x

  12. herCatwalk May 16, 2011 at 9:38 am #

    GREAT post! I always wonder what it’d be like to meet a blogger friend in real life!!

  13. Heather Fonseca May 17, 2011 at 10:02 am #

    Thanks everyone for all the great comments! It was fun meeting some local bloggers and I hope to do it again soon. if you’re in LA and you’re interested in joining us please contact me! (If you look at the very top you’ll see a link to a contact page. Click on it and send me an e-mail.)

  14. Hajra May 18, 2011 at 1:20 am #

    This is such an interesting post. I am a part of the TLC Club where 40 bloggers have joined this amazing challenge to share and comment on each others post. It has been a wonderful experience and though we did our 3 month challenge, we have extended it to another 3 months because we are just having so much fun!
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    • Heather Fonseca May 18, 2011 at 8:44 am #

      I really enjoy reading my friend’s posts and responding with a comment. It’s neat being part of this fashion-loving community! Glad you’ve found a blogging club that works well for you. I never really jived with the one on linkedin.