Why get dressed up?

On weekdays I get up early, drink copious amounts of coffee, and throw on shorts and a t-shirt. With my trusty flip-flop sandals on my feet I busy myself in the kitchen making breakfast and packing school lunches. Later I’ll drive my kids to school, return home, maybe go for a quick walk, and then start work. Sometime during the day I’ll find some time to take a shower and return to my shorts, t-shirt and flip-flops. I realized the other day as I stared into my densely packed closet that I probably wear 90% of my clothes 10% of the time. Dressy things like this pencil skirt and chunky platform sandals are only worn on the weekend. But sometimes I wonder why I bother at all? Wouldn’t it be easier to wear jeans and a t-shirt every day? Wouldn’t it be nice to stare into a simple, spare wardrobe of only a few sensible clothes? Shouldn’t I long for comfortable clothing that creates ease of movement?

Nope. If I had to wear my work-from-home uniform of shorts, t-shirt and flats all the time I would probably be very depressed. Saturday and Sunday are days to get dressed up. Even if I’m going to the grocery store I put on something nice, and probably something that isn’t all the comfortable. I match my purse to my outfit, pick out earrings, slip on a shoe with a bit of a heel, tidy my hair and apply makeup to my face.

I mention all of this because I’ve seen a lot of comments on the web that suggest that personal style bloggers just get dressed up for photos and then take off the outfit and put on sweats. Although I definitely think about what I’m wearing to take photos I would be getting dressed up on the weekends no matter what. For instance,  we took these at the Los Angeles County Museum of Art on a Sunday afternoon. I was there with the whole family, and believe me, I wondered at the practicalities of wearing high heels and a pencil skirt when taking kids on an outing. Even well-behaved older children get into trouble, especially nine-year-old boys who insist on climbing on walls and getting hurt when jumping off said walls. But after years spent in mom jeans and sneakers running around after toddlers I refuse to continue in the same vein now that my children are older.

So now that I have explained that I do, indeed, get dressed up regardless of photos for the blog, let me answer the question in the title. Why get dressed up? I get dressed up to feel good about myself. Yes, it’s vain, but I love looking in the mirror and smiling at the reflection that stares back at me.  We all know that eating nutritious food and exercising consistently are good ways to take care of ourselves, but so is taking the time to adorn our bodies beautifully.  The simple act of get dressed nurtures my self-confidence. It helps me in all aspects of my life.  When I look good on the outside I feel good on the inside, and then I’m a better wife, mother, daughter, friend and worker bee.

Here’s to getting dressed up and looking good even if it’s impractical, vain and silly!

I guess it’s pretty clear from this article that I like to get dressed up but it occurs to me that I might want to improve how I look on a daily basis as well. Here are a few articles that are inspiring me to get out of the shorts and flip flops. The 3o days of getting dressed challenge looks like something fun to try and  Improve your life right away. Get dressed! reminds me that it’s important to look good for family too. Staying in my pajamas all day during the week is something of a temptation. Do I bother to get dressed today?  encourages me to put on real clothes even though I work from home.

But back to the weekend. In these photos I wore:

  • Mossimo T-shirt from Target
  • Anthropologie skirt from The Buffalo Exchange
  • Thrifted purse
  • Roberto de Carlo sandals

Do you like to get dressed up?


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36 Responses to Why get dressed up?

  1. Kiki October 1, 2012 at 9:10 am #

    Definitely with you on that one. I’m a freelance photographer so don’t even have to dress up for work. If I didn’t get dressed up on my days off or whatver…well, I would just be depressed. My work “uniform” is jeans, t-short and flat shoes most of the time. I LOVE to get dressed up when I’m not working, put my heels on, something nice, a dress or a skirt…
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  2. Alexis Grace October 1, 2012 at 10:22 am #

    Confession: I have a very similar routine. On days when work will keep me inside all day I grab leggings, an oversized tee and flip flops. If I have a series of errands I will step it up a bit, but I really look forward to date nights, work days out of the house, weekend activities, etc. when I can put in the extra effort.

    It does me me feel so much better to put in that effort. Plus I really do believe how we look matters and makes impressions.

    I purposely don’t own too much lounging stuff, because I don’t every want that to be what I grab for when I am in public……
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    • Heather Fonseca October 2, 2012 at 10:04 am #

      I have to go fabric shopping today so I’ll be changing into something cute soon. Any excuse to get dressed up is a good one for me. (: Glad I’m not the only one working at home in leggings!

  3. Playing With Scarves October 1, 2012 at 1:11 pm #

    Oh my, Heather,
    You said so well what so many of us feel and think! Dressing up is a notion we tend to lose when we work from home 🙁 PJs are a tempting option for sure.
    This morning I was giving a lecture about scarves… I had to dress up of course and to wear a stylish scarf,of course. And it was…a delightful feeling.
    As you also said so well: we should make the effort for us first – and as sign of respect to our beloved as well.
    When I know I look awful, then I drag myself to the mirror and usually in a few sec I will work on looking better. Mirror is the key to making efforts.
    Personal memory: before passing away, my Mom said: please make sure I am dressed up to cross the Rainbow bridge… My last memory of her is a beautiful woman who kept her dignity to the end… She is somewhere above, dressed up for eternity.
    Enough with painful memories… You look wonderful with your heels and your red skirt. And no one could imagine you not dressed up. Don’t change! You are inspirational:-)
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    • Heather Fonseca October 2, 2012 at 10:02 am #

      How fun that you do lectures on scarves! I love them myself, but can’t wear them until it gets colder. I’m sorry you lost your mom, but the story is a nice one though very sad too. I hope she’s in heaven and dressed up too. (:

  4. SACRAMENTO October 2, 2012 at 2:49 am #

    I so do agree with you, and always do.
    Red loves you.
    You really look stunning in that red skirt, Heather.
    Ps: looking forward to more…
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    • Heather Fonseca October 2, 2012 at 9:59 am #

      Thank you Sacramento. I plan on wearing the skirt again for the blog as it’s been one of my favorite pieces recently, and there’s a bit of a story behind it too!

  5. Mary Jo
    October 2, 2012 at 8:24 am #

    Heather, you just get prettier every time I see you here on your blog! Love your red heart skirt. I love occasions to get dressed up too even if it is just running around town, and it always does make you feel better!

    xo Mary Jo
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  6. Shanti October 2, 2012 at 12:09 pm #

    Amazing as always! my lifestyle right now is very jeans, rock tshirt, and hightop sneakers kind of outfits……but for photoshoots, I definitely like to dress up. Although lately I’ve just been photographing other people dressed up! Thanks for all the inspiration Heather!

    • Heather Fonseca October 3, 2012 at 11:06 am #

      You’re welcome Shanti! I’m glad you like what I’m doing here and I love what you’re doing on your blog too.

  7. Greetje Kamminga October 2, 2012 at 1:41 pm #

    This is why I like working in a big office environment: lots of friends and colleagues to dress up for. I have to be careful not to go jogging trousers and the such in the evenings, when I am with my husband. I do want to keep him hahaha. So I keep on dressing nicely for him as well. Which is why I love it when I have half a day on my own in the weekend. You should see me hanging on the couch then….

    • Heather Fonseca October 3, 2012 at 11:05 am #

      I think it I dressed up for work every day I would probably want to wear casual clothes on the weekends too! I guess it’s the inverse when we work at home. I never really thought about it that way though. Thanks for the insight Greetje.

  8. twoshoppermoms October 2, 2012 at 2:17 pm #

    I so enjoyed reading your post today. As moms, we tend to get consumed with children, working, and maintaining everyone else. An older woman once told me her regret was not putting more effort in herself when her children were at home. We can only give back to our family what we put into ourselves..Keep wearing those pencil skirts, you look great and encourage all of us to do the same.

    • Heather Fonseca October 3, 2012 at 11:04 am #

      Thank so much! I’m really glad you enjoyed the article. As a mother I do put so much energy into my family, and it does seem like sometimes I come last, but I try very hard to keep some focus on myself.

  9. DressCode:HighFashion
    October 3, 2012 at 1:56 am #

    Hey dear.

    I LOVE your look! (Even though the black top + red print skirt somehow remind me of Minnie Mouse.)

    What a difference a pose makes. In the first picture you look like a sexy pin up, fragile in the second and like a visionary, self-confident woman in the last one.

    Hugs, Jen

    PS: You have lost weight, right!?! Looks like 10 pounds are off. You look amazing & skinny.
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    • Heather Fonseca October 3, 2012 at 11:02 am #

      OH that’s so funny Jen. I guess it does look like Minnie Mouse’s colors. All I need are some polka dots and long eyelashes! As for the weight, I think it’s an optical illusion with the photos. In all the poses I’m sort of hiding one hip behind an arm but the skirt is so slim it looks like my hips are very narrow. But I’m glad you like the look!

  10. Oh to Be a Muse
    October 3, 2012 at 7:21 am #

    I totally get you on the dressing up thing. I tend to dress up on Fridays and Saturdays. And I really like your skirt and your camera.

    By the way, a frohawk is a mohawk but done with an afro. 🙂
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    • Heather Fonseca October 3, 2012 at 10:59 am #

      Thanks! I’m glad you like the post and thanks for letting me know what a frohawk is! I always like the way your hair looks.

  11. Natasha October 3, 2012 at 3:52 pm #

    Love this post! I’m an author, and it’s so easy to just sit around in my pjs all day, but you’re right, dressing up really does change how you feel 🙂 x

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    • Heather Fonseca October 4, 2012 at 9:42 pm #

      Thanks for commenting Natasha! I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Sometimes if I don’t have to take the kids to school I stay in my pjs for too long and feel yucky. Getting dressed is definitely the way to go.

  12. Jeannie
    October 4, 2012 at 8:20 pm #

    You look so beautiful! Love the outfit, and the photos are stunning!
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  13. Odyssey Home
    October 5, 2012 at 7:56 am #

    You look lovely in this ensemble.
    I’ve learned I automatically feel better if I’m dressed for whatever the day brings. Most of my clothes are black knits and extremely versatile for virtually any occasion.
    Being nicely turned out should never feel impractical, vain or silly – on the contrary. 🙂

    • Heather Fonseca October 7, 2012 at 1:41 pm #

      I love your simple style! I wish I had the discipline to only wear black and white. It seems like it would really simplify life.

  14. Stacey - Total City Girl
    October 5, 2012 at 2:57 pm #

    I have to admit that since I work from home I am way more into comfort than style. I too have been thinking about it lately though because I do feel bad that when my girls come home from school they see me still dressed in the black yoga pants I wore when i went to the gym in the morning. I feel more productive as well when I get dressed – especially if keep my shoes on even when I am home. I think it is more about changing routines. After I go to the gym in the morning, my intentions are to come home, shower and eat and then start to work. If I go straight to the computer, that’s it. It’s yoga pants all day!
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    • Heather Fonseca October 7, 2012 at 1:39 pm #

      My routine includes taking the kids to school and then exercising as well. I usually come in the house to make lunch and thats when I shower and “get dressed” for the day. Usually getting dressed means jeans or shorts, but at least I’m clean! YOu could try showering and changing at the gym…?

  15. Sylvia
    October 6, 2012 at 5:06 am #

    Since I work from home in enormous high temperatures I usually just wear as little as possible in the house, shorts and a singlet. Anything else will just be too hot. But whenever I go outside I dress up. And since I’m already so casual at home, I want to wear something nice when going out. It’s just too much fun and always makes me feel good!
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    • Heather Fonseca October 7, 2012 at 1:35 pm #

      I think we have the same situation Sylvia!

  16. Sharon October 6, 2012 at 2:21 pm #

    I am not a personal style blogger but, I like dressing up. I feel better . . more productive. . .intelligent. . .like a boss. . . when I am dressed up compared to when I am in sweats. Actually, my closet is more dress than casual. So, I totally agree that it is nice to dress up and can effect the way one feels.I think that if more people took the time to dress up when they are going out for the day it would make everyone behave differently. Have more pride. Follow their dreams and strive for goals.
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    • Heather Fonseca October 7, 2012 at 1:33 pm #

      So glad you agree with me Sharon! It seems like a topic that is close to many women’s hearts, and its making me feel better that I get dressed up for every event.

  17. Fashion October 15, 2012 at 4:09 am #

    Hey Heather, you have really given back to them by explaining how, what and why you wear. Well in that couple of clicks, you’ve made most of those monuments and furthermore that shadow behind the patio makes rather creative appearance. Glad to see you
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    • Heather Fonseca October 15, 2012 at 6:02 pm #

      Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

  18. Shybiker December 30, 2012 at 7:46 am #

    Thanks for resurrecting this post on Twitter. It’s a good one.

    You make an important, sound point — dressing up affects us in positive ways. We feel better about ourselves, people treat us with more respect and the world seem sunnier. Putting on nice clothes is always worth the effort.

    It’s easy to slide into a routine of comfort, but that’s little excuse for poor appearance. Moreover, I find fashion and creating outfits to be a creative exercise. It’s not stretching language to call it art. Pursuing art is noble and enriching.
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    • Heather Fonseca December 31, 2012 at 8:55 pm #

      Hi Shybiker! I’m so glad you liked the article and that it spoke to you. This holiday season I really found the overall casual look that so many people seem to favor a bit depressing. We went out for Christmas Eve dinner and there were people there wearing SWEATS! Yes. Sweatpants and t-shirts for a nice dinner out on Christmas Eve. I always try to take the time to look good, but I fear it might be the end of dressing up. Sigh.

      Also, the tweet came from an plugin I use called “Tweet Old Post”. It’s a great little plugin!